WHEN THE BOUGH BREAKS....



A FREE searchsite for ADOPTEES and BIRTHPARENTS searching in NORTH CAROLINA.

IF YOU ARE A RESEARCHER, EITHER VOLUNTEER OR FOR-HIRE, I ASK THAT YOU DO NOT CONTACT THE PERSONS POSTED ON THIS WEBSITE DIRECTLY. IF YOU HAVE INFO THAT IS PERTINENT TO THEIR SEARCH, PLEASE CONTACT ME at fallingcradle@aol.com MANY OF THEM DO NOT WANT TO BE CONTACTED BY PEOPLE UNKNOWN TO THEM WHO MAY BE SOLICITING BUSINESS AND MAY NOT RESPOND TO YOUR EMAIL. I AM TOTALLY RESPONSIBLE FOR THIS WEBSITE AND IT'S CONTENTS. I PAY FOR IT AND CHARGE NO FEES. thank you

CAUTION !! IF YOU ARE NOT SURE THAT YOU CAN HANDLE FINDING OUT THE VERY WORST ABOUT YOUR BIRTH SITUATION....DO NOT SEARCH !!!

I am a birthmom who searched for and found my son in 1985. His name is Reynolds Edward O'Briant. There was no internet then, and it was very frustrating. It has been a wonderful experience being part of his life and I hope each of you will be able to have this experience before long!

YOU MAY SCROLL TO BOTTOM OF PAGE TO BEGIN YOUR SEARCH....BUT please read this page first ! IF YOU POST ON THIS SITE, PLEASE, PLEASE...NOTIFY ME OF CHANGE OF EMAIL ADDRESS. IF YOU DON'T, NO ONE WILL BE ABLE TO CONTACT YOU IF THERE IS A MATCH !!!!!

THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW BEFORE PROCEEDING IN YOUR SEARCH:

As you probably know, adoption records in North Carolina are STILL sealed. However, some BIRTH RECORDS are not! A tremendous number of adoptions in North Carolina were handled thru the CHILDREN'S HOME SOCIETY in Greensboro (Guilford County). Because of this, many adoptees erroneously believe that is where they were born. There was NOT a maternity home or birth home at the Children's Home Society, NOR was there an orphanage!! The babies were placed in Foster Homes until they were placed for adoption. The babies whose adoptions they processed were brought there from the various places of birth around the state. Up until the late 1960's, there was a Salvation Army Home for unwed mothers in Durham. There was also a Salvation Army Home in Asheville, NC. Still existing today, is the better-known FLORENCE CRITTENTON MATERNITY HOME in Charlotte. This maternity home was across the street from the then-named "Charlotte Memorial Hospital", where the "Home" residents gave birth to their babies. There were other Salvation Army and private maternity homes in other cities in North Carolina.

If you are an ADOPTEE searching, you should already have two things:

1. Your non-identifying info from the agency which handled your adoption.

2. If your adoption was NOT handled by Children's Home Society or you do not know which agency handled your adoption, and you have not received any non-identifying info and you are not positive about where you were born.. you should write to the NC Division of Social Services 325 N. Salisbury St. 2408 Mail Service Center Raleigh, NC 27699-2408. IMPORTANT: ONLY ask if they can provide you with non-identifying information and tell you where you were born. DO NOT SAY THAT YOU ARE SEARCHING FOR YOUR BIRTH PARENTS !!! More than likely, they will tell you which county to contact for your information. In the past year, they have NOT been giving out place or birth...but you may be lucky and get that, too. You MUST send : a photo copy of your drivers license; the adoptive parents' names; and your date of birth.

This request should be from the adoptee.... stating adopted name, date of birth and names of adoptive parents.

If you have not done this, you should! It usually takes 3-5 weeks to get an answer. Some adoptees are even reporting that they have received a phone call from this agency either revealing their county of birth or advising them they will NOT tell them. There are 100 counties in the state and this will eliminate searching needlessly in 99 of them! Even if your "adopted" birth certificate says you were born in a specific county, you should do this!!!! You may have been given false info.

DO NOT FOR ANY REASON SAY THAT YOU ARE SEARCHING FOR BIRTHPARENTS!! ASK FOR ONLY WHERE YOU WERE BORN! SAMPLE LETTER: TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN: I am writing to request my non-identifying information. If you cannot provide this, please advise where I should write. My adoptive name is __________ and my adoptive parents were _________________________. My date of birth is: ____________. I am enclosing a photcopy of my driver's license. Thank you,____________(your name)

You also should know that dates of birth have NOT been changed in North Carolina LEGAL adoptions since the early 1930's, and was not always done then.

Once you know WHERE you were born, go to that county and look at birth certificates for that year. Many of them are still there! (If they have been pulled, there may be a reference in those records as to where to look for more info.) ***** NOTE: NEVER say the word "adoption" when in a court house!!! If asked why you want to look at the birth certificates, tell them you're doing genealogy research!! ***** Here, you will compare your non-identifying info from the adoption agency with the info on the birth certificates...time of birth, weight, mother's age, etc. The info on birth certificates varies, depending on when you were born. NOW....you're on your way to finding your birth parents!

If you are a BIRTHPARENT searching, I hope you will post on this site! The info you post is minimal, but should include enough info so that the adoptee may recognize himself / herself. The most important info is the DATE OF BIRTH and the PLACE OF BIRTH; Also, you should post, if you know it, the TIME OF BIRTH, the baby's WEIGHT, YOUR AGE at the time of birth, and anything else you know (Dr.'s name, hospital name, etc.) All of these are things the child can compare to his/her non-identifying info and birth certificate if they have found it. I wish you luck with your search!!

ATTENTION: Beginning January 1, 2008, North Carolina will have a variarion of a "Mutual Consent Registry" for Adoptees age 21 or older or their direct lineal descendants (if adoptee is deceased), and Birth Families. It is unclear, at this time, exactly how it will work, but the indications are that adoptee or birth parent can contact the Agency which handled the adoption and fill out and sign a form indicating the desire to have knowledge of the other person. The Agency will then make an ATTEMPT to contact the other party to see if they do or do not consent to their information being released to the other party. However..please understand that if one party cannot be located, you will STILL not be given their name or identifying info. Being that the majority of people searching are adoptees looking for birthmoms, it may be difficult to locate women who have married one or more times and moved around throughout their adult life. There will be a cost for this service, which has not been decided on yet. You may want to continue posting on this and other similar websites in case the person you are searching for cannot be found by the agency.

This is NOT a fancy website..just the basics so you can search. PLEASE NOTE: I DO NOT POST SEARCHES FOR ADOPTEES UNDER THE AGE OF 18 !

Please click posting form to post your info or searchto view the postings!



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